Friends, the saviors from boring afternoons, supporters of week long alcohol binges, but sometimes nuances in the moments when we need them most. One of the most amazing feelings in a proper friendship is after you realize how compatible you really are for each other. Your life stories align to some particularly frightening details, and your warped sense of humor suddenly becomes a little more twisted than you thought it could be.
This is a pivotal moment in your relationship because you found it, the person who can fulfill nearly everything you need, excluding sex; however, you know for a fact they'll be there to support every one night stand and kinky detail they hear about. Maintaining a friendship at this level is tough work, and for some people, nearly impossible.
Feelings begin to develop, almost as if you were in a fully committed romantic relationship. One partner begins to feel jealous when they aren't receiving enough attention, and the other becomes smothered, tired of justifying the reasons for normal distance created by busy schedules. It's not a surprise that these emotions become prevalent in relationships with such intensity, it can bring out the worst in people. They become possessive, hurt, but it's hard to notice these tendencies because they are caught up in a high from such a strong friendship, one that is becoming detrimental to the soul.
It can be exhausting.
Suddenly, one side finds themselves feeling left out, jealous. They become overwhelmed by the pressure they put upon themselves, and say things they don't necessarily mean after a heavy night of drinking. Nonsensical , unintelligent stabs at the friend to provoke a similar feeling in them, similar to the feeling they've been burdened with. They're tired of feeling like the victim, powerless because life isn't the same as it was. They miss the laughs, the goofy text messages, they miss their best friend.
When we become comfortable with someone we love, it's inappropriately easy to treat them like a punching bag for words. We rule out sensibility, and forget that such "golden" happiness can be robbed in an instant, leaving us solely with mere memories of what was. This is sad, yes, but hopefully the experience taught a lesson or two.
When we let our reservations go and look too far into translating the meaning of any given relationship, we need to look at it lightly. We need not to make a friend property; instead, we must learn patience when life gets busy, and remember that change is the way of life, it can be an incredibly good thing. Communication is a beneficial factor that can save friendships, it can make them strong and long-lasting. People take advantage of the use of their words and respond with either passive aggressiveness or direct confrontation, and not the good kind either.
Despite the frustration you may be feeling, relax and breathe. Don't say or do anything you will soon regret because sometimes you'll realize that you picked the wrong battle, you weren't right, and the last thing you want is to regret something you said in the heat of a moment. I have been there a time or two before, and it's not fun. Chances are that you may have too, and just know that you are not a bad person because of it. It sucks, but it happens.
Learn from your mistakes and use these lessons to better yourself, to make your future friendships stronger. Take advantage of what you have, and release any disdain or regret that's holding you back from being the best that you can be, and the best you can be to others.
Also,
Remember that no matter what you may have done, I'll be your friend, always.
