Gosh, it sure has been a little while since I've been on here. Where do we even begin? Life is full of mysteries... You know, the ones that happen so quickly and out of the blue. These events continue to happen, and while not all of them have been necessarily bad, they have been casually shifting the direction my life is heading (and I'm sure we can all relate on this note).
So let's take a quick glance at the life of Korey, and see what insight I can shed light on for the ups and the downs life has thrown at me.
Shall we begin?
Relationships can be... messy.
I have had my fair share of really great relationships, in fact, I just recently got out of a really great one. Wait? What did I just say. It can't have been that great if it had to end. Sometimes when we find ourselves at the hands of the all mighty love- we can lose track of who we are. There are sacrifices that are made to make a relationship work, they're necessary; however, there comes a point when these mild changes become a bit too extreme.
In my case, I stopped giving attention to the ones that I love most- friends and family... and I found myself at a standstill of meeting people. By nature, I am a very social guy, but when I stopped interacting with new people for the sake of strictly making friends with my boyfriend's friends, I realize there was a problem. This slowly led to a slippery downhill slope into what I can now say is the single life, but this isn't necessarily a bad thing. My ex is a great guy, but at the end of the day, I wasn't as happy as I could have been and can be.
We also found ourselves arguing about people that the each of us had been texting. He enjoys maintaining relationships with his exes and past hookups, mind you, he is a very loyal and trustworthy guy, yet this was very hard for me to grasp. Slowly I began to accept it for what it was, but in the back of my mind I found this very, well, irksome I suppose. In light of this now, sitting here at my computer with a fresh cup of hot coffee, it was wrong of me to not have communicated my concerns as explicitly as I should have. I've been cheated on, I've been lied to, and this should have been put on the line from the get-go.
I guess what I'm saying is that communication, in all aspects of life should be actively present. If it's not, you're going to find yourself upset with the areas of the relationship that could be improved upon. There will always be a place for him in my heart, but I'm learning, growing, and am ready to continue on solo for a little while, eager to make the necessary changes that will make my future relationships great.
Do what will make you happy.
For so long I found myself starting at the bottom of an empty beer bottle because I didn't want to confront the issues that were bringing me down. I love to write. Plain and simple. Yet, I wasn't doing it as regularly as I would have liked to because I was too buys boozing it up, and ignoring the other vast realm of interests that I have. So, instead of making another trip to the liquor store, I started looking for activities that I have always loved.
Meeting people who love to write, improv groups that like to get silly, and putting myself around others who will help me be the me that I know that I can be.
So here's a little piece of advice from a guy who still working on becoming something great. Set some time out of your week, or even month, to do something that excites you. You will find that the monotony of everyday life doesn't have to be so monotonous... Gosh I sure am clever.
There will always be another chance.
I think the problem that a lot of us have is that we think when something ends, that's all that it is... An end. We've all heard this a million times before, but when one door closes, another one opens. I hate to be cliche, but nothing can be anything closer to the truth. Whether it's work, relationships, or even friendships, there is always something bigger, better, and something so enticingly awesome just waiting for you to dive into.
Don't give up, and never stop pushing for greatness.
I hate to ramble on and on, so why don't I leave us with a final overall message. Just be you. That's all it is. Don't sacrifice something you love, for someone or something that is only concerned about itself. We have this one life to make a change, and leave a mark before our time runs out. Your mark is going to be bigger and better than you ever thought possible. Trust me on this one.
Signing out for now.
-Korey
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